I began gardening about 6 years ago. I was inspired by my
next-door neighbor, who I have dubbed “The Master Gardener,” after I watched
her garden grow and evolve for over 10 years. My gardening mentor warned me
that I would soon get sucked in and become one of those crazy gardeners who
spot a weed in one of their planting beds from their kitchen window and run
outside in their robe and slippers to pull the offending weed from the ground.
She was right. So, as I struggle to maintain my garden in the midst of the
summer heat, over the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing a few of the lessons my
garden has taught me.
1)
Growth takes
time, sweat, and love. What you put into it, is pretty much what you will get
out of it.
After mostly gardening in
containers for several years, I decided to dig a large planting bed in my
backyard. I anticipated that this would be a huge undertaking but I had no idea
how hard it would be. The sod in my backyard has grown undisturbed for over 40
years, and the grass has strong, deep roots. I did not rent a sod cutter
because I was afraid that something would go horribly wrong, so I dug the
entire 10 foot x 8 foot bed by hand. I did it during a week of my vacation and
after hours of removing and hauling away sod, I would soak in a tub of hot
water and douse myself in that green rubbing alcohol. The next morning I would
wake up feeling great and go back to digging. After the digging came the
planting, the watering, the fertilizing, and on and on. It never seems to end.
In much the same way as digging my
garden bed, positive relationships, a successful career, and healthy,
well-adjusted children take time, sweat and love. How many times have you
witnessed a parent ignore, neglect or abuse their children and then shake their
heads in disbelief when their children go astray. It pains me when I hear young
mothers cursing at their children, call them names or tell them to “quit
talkin’ to me.” These children’s tender spirits are often so bruised and
crushed that the children become angry and bitter before they are old enough to
articulate the pain that they are feeling. I’m the first person to admit that
“I don’t know nuthin’ ‘bout birthin’ no babies” but I’ve worked with children
for years and witnessed the horrible things that can happen if children do not
get what they need from their caregivers. I could stick a plant in the ground
and leave it up to mother nature to water it, and leave it to fend off insects
and plant diseases on its own, and it may survive, but as what? A withered
stump of a plant, barely distinguishable from the weeds that have nearly choked
the life out of it? The schools, the streets and juvenile detention centers all
over the country are full of children such as these. My prayer is that stressed
out parents will receive the strength, the intestinal fortitude, and the
support to give their children the attention that they need for them to grow.
More lessons to come. And hopefully
a field trip. I’m excited!